I Love Love: Why I Read and Write Romance

I get so tired of people who dismiss romances as “porn for moms.”

Yes, the hotter romances do provide some level of sexual gratification. And romance readers have more active sex lives.

But there are plenty of romances that have no “on-screen” sex or even the implication of “off-screen” sex. (At least, this is what I’ve heard. I prefer the hotter romances, so those are what I gravitate toward.)

But sex is not the entire reason romances exist. Porn movies exist solely to titillate through visual depictions of sex. Romances, even the ones with the most sex per page, focus on the love, the emotions as a means of engaging the reader in a story outside his or her own experience.

How many of us are pursued romantically by overbearing alphas? How about billionaire sheiks? Vampires, werewolves, or other fantastic folk? And how many of us actually want to be? I mean, I love vampires as much as the next girl, but I think in real life, they would be more scary than hot.

I want to be swept away in that initial first blush of infatuation. I want to be wooed by a dominant and wealthy man who will not rest until he makes me his. I want to know what it is like to be a creature of the night. I want to travel space with my trusty male companion. I want to fight evil alongside the most amazing sexy male demon I’ve ever encountered. But only on the page.

I am perfectly happy with my life, my husband, my dogs. But sometimes I like to live in a world that is more than I can experience in my lifetime. At least until I close the book or turn off the iPod.

What about you? Why do you read romances? If you’re a writer, too, why did you start writing them?


2 Responses to “I Love Love: Why I Read and Write Romance”

  1. 1 tamaramorgan
    22 October, 2009 at 2:14 am

    I agree about romance novels being a kind of escape from real life. My relationship with my husband has always been very easy; it would make for a terrible romance novel. It’s nice to get my drama and sensationalism from fiction and to get stability and comfort from home.

  2. 22 October, 2009 at 1:35 pm

    I read and write for the same reasons you put up and Tamara noted. I like being able to exist in a world so different from mine at times. And I believe that’s something every reader enjoys even if they can’t/don’t always act upon it. who hasn’t ever thought about having magical powers? Who hasn’t dreamt about having some sort of adventure be it on the moon or under water?

    People who are so dismissive of this genre (or any genre to be honest), I’d like to know why. What has been their experience with the genre? When was the last time they read anything in the genre? Why do they feel whatever their interests/genres of choice are more important than anyone elses? If they can give me some valid responses other than ‘porn for moms’, then I’d be willing to listen to what they have to say. Until then, hand me my romance (or any genre I enjoy) novel, please. Life’s too short as it is – I read what makes me happy.

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